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Are you feeling powerless? Have situations taken a turn you don’t like? Do you feel like there is nothing you can do to make things better today? There are things you can do to change your perspective. Here are three possibilities.

1. Feelings follow thoughts. If you think positive you will feel positive. For example I can learn how to use that new computer program.

2. Learn to relax. We need to unwind when we are feeling frustrated. Take a hot bath or call a friend to talk. This will relax you physically as well as mentally.

3. Exercise, get out and walk it out! This will increase your endorphins and refresh your mind and body to get you into a better frame of mind.

Don’t let frustration get the best of you. Call me today for a 30 minute complimentary coach call.

How many of you say or think to yourself, “I cannot have fun or relax until the weekend comes” only to find out when the weekend rolls around, you’re too tired to relax or you have an emotional hangover from the past workweek? That is not how you are supposed to love yourself! As a matter of fact, it is disrespectful to treat yourself that way! So, why do we do this week after week and let ourselves get away with this? Maybe it is because we don’t realize what we are doing or maybe we don’t know there are choices we can make to change this behavior.

Today, I want to challenge you to ask yourself what are your beliefs about having fun and relaxing? Do they sound a little like this, “If I relax that means I am lazy, everybody else feels this way, life is hard and I don’t have time for fun.”? If so, the next thing to do is ask yourself who these beliefs belong to? Possibility your parents or did you make them up based on a past experience you’ve had?

Here are 3 ways to challenge these beliefs and enjoy your life to the fullest:

1. If you’re not sure what your current beliefs are, sit for an hour and listen to your thoughts. Think about why you think the way you do.
2. Now that you know your beliefs, if they are negative, change them! Challenge yourself not to keep that old negative story up and make a new positive one for yourself!
3. Lastly, love yourself enough to practice daily being aware of your beliefs! Consciously stop yourself from playing back those old negative stories in your head, and replace those with your new positive ones!

When coaching a client, whether it is in person or by phone, the place most of them get stuck is not communicating what they really need to say. You may wonder why that’s so difficult and how you can improve at communicating with others. Well, you know that old saying “let it begin with me.” Get out a sheet of paper and be an objective observer, ask yourself what is holding you back? In the past, clients have shared with me that when they give themselves time to sort their thoughts out on paper, they are usually very surprised that their lack of communication has to do with them not saying what they truly want or need. So, how can we make this process less painful and recognize this quicker?

Here are 3 tips that may help you get there:

1. Are you saying a lot of coulda, woulda, shoulda’s? If so, you may need to first get honest with yourself. It is not just what you say; it is how you say it.
2. Say it with confidence, that you and the person can work out what you are going through.
3. Last but not least, stop making excuses and get off your b-u-t-s! This is a sure way to notice you are placing blame or trying to justifying your need to be right, instead of just getting to the root of the issue.

If you are looking for a way to better communicate, call me today and set up a complimentary wellness coaching call! We can always unlearn and relearn new ways to communicate.

We all have had those moments when we said more than we needed to in response to a situation. We leave questioning ourselves and wondering if what we said was helpful or hurtful. As most of you know, we have those opportunities daily to check in with ourselves in all our conversations. I’m not implying we question every encounter but some days my emotional filter may not be at its best. So here are 3 neutral statements you can use when you are questioning how important is it to give advice, listen, or just reflect back.

1. You may be right.
2. That’s an interesting way to say that.
3. I don’t know let me think about that and get back to you later.

These neutral statements have really helped me and my clients in difficult situations. So if you are ready to learn more and say less, call me for a 30 minute complimentary coach call today.